Today is Emily’s and my two year anniversary. What a wild ride
I’ve learned so much from her, about myself, my community, and the world. She’s taught me to open my heart and mind to those different from me. She’s taught be how to be a queer person who doesn’t have to confront to the pre-prescribed roles of small-town LGBT folk. She’s taught me how to be a sexual being who is comfortable with her body. She’s taught me to how to love myself and how to love another person romantically.
She’s my best friend, and I’m so proud to be with her.
sometimes i get sad looking at wikipedia articles of places i want to go to because at the beginning of their foray into the history of the place the first thing they usually say is: “europeans first discovered” or “europeans first explored” this place and that place i’m just like, man. that erasure of indigenous life, that notion that nothing exists until the west discovers it. all of it is so real. too real. too fucking real.
my ex-friend from high school posted her engagement announcement in today’s paper, and i feel really weird about it. to make it worse, the wedding date is a week after my birthday. my stomach feels like it’s being squeezed like a baseball in a glove, made even worse by the fact that she probably picked that day and never thought about me once. i really loved her, man. i really, really did, but sometimes that just isn’t enough.
“[F]or the first several years the SAT was offered, males scored higher than females on the Math section but females achieved higher scores on the Verbal section. ETS policy-makers determined that the Verbal test needed to be “balanced” more in favor of males, and added questions pertaining to politics, business and sports to the Verbal portion. Since that time, males have outscored females on both the Math and Verbal sections. Dwyer notes that no similar effort has been made to “balance” the Math section, and concludes that, “It could be done, but it has not been, and I believe that probably an unconscious form of sexism underlies this pattern. When females show the superior performance, ‘balancing’ is required; when males show the superior performance, no adjustments are necessary.” ”—
“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org
And then people urge me everything is fine, of course it is, when you’re ignoring statistics that is.
“I met my wife at a Star Trek convention. She was study abroad from France and spoke little English, and I didn’t know a lick of French. So, for the first few months of our relationship, we communicated by speaking Klingon.”—